Sunday, December 19, 2010

A Christmas Miracle & Truth Number 3

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...in a small mid-western town, there was a handsome, popular & athletic boy.


He was Senior Class President,


Captain of the Football Team & a State Champion in track & field.


At the same school there was a beautiful, bright young girl filled with promise for the future.


She was a Homecoming Princess, a Nationally Ranked diver & a reserve on the US Olympic Diving Team. This boy & this girl became high school sweethearts, fell in love & got married.


The sweetheart's were expecting a baby when this proud, 18 year old, All-American boy & his best friend, enlisted in the Marines & went off to fight in the Korean War. The two small town boys sailed across the ocean blue, to places they could have never imagined.


Back home, the girl became a Mommy. With her husband away at war, she & her brand new baby moved from their small hometown & everything they had ever known, to a beach city in southern California & it was there that she awaited her husband's return. Johnny was one before his Daddy ever got to hold him. Soon, there was a new addition to the family, a little baby girl named Susie.


Johnny & Susie had a happy childhood in their little house near the seashore.


Growing up with their faces in the sun, they searched for shells in the sand, swam in the bay, checked out books from the seaside library & always smelled of 'Sea & Ski.'


On Christmas morning, they sat together playing with their new toys, dressed in their new Christmas pajamas & slippers. Susie doesn't have a childhood memory that Johnny is not in.


Fast, fast forward....
Slowly & over time, their beautiful Mommy got sick. She had a devastating disease for which there was no cure. A genetic disease. Huntington's Disease. Susie was 10 when her Mommy got diagnosed & 15 when her Mommy died. Susie spent the next 40 years of her life being terrified about everything & anything to do with the monster that lurked under her bed. A flip of a coin would determine Johnny & Susie's fate, a 50/50 chance were the odds they were given. Tragically, Johnny lost the coin toss.


Susie watched Johnny get worse & worse. Susie was scared of Johnny & of what Johnny's illness represented. A possible mirror image of herself, reliving the pain of her Mommy's disease, guilt, fear & some more fear. At some point, Johnny got lost in the system...disability, social security, medical, medicare, halfway houses, care facilities, nursing homes, convalescent hospitals & Susie didn't try & find him because her FEAR was too great.
Then , Susie did a blog about 30 Truths & she came to number 3.


Unknowingly, number 3 changed her life... forever.
Number3: Something you have to forgive yourself for.
Surviving & Johnny.
 
 
Fast forward...
Thursday I found my brother, Johnny.
Thursday, I drove alone to a nursing home in LA.
Thursday, I didn't know if I could get out of the car...but I did.
Thursday, I walked through the doors & smelled urine & got scared & thought I can't do it...but I did.
Thursday, I walked up to a nurses aide & asked where Johnny was. She led me to a room & I saw a man in a bed on the far side of the room & thought, it's just too hard, don't go in...but I did.
Thursday, I walked into his room. Crying, I walked over to his bed & for the 1st time in so many lost years, I kissed the face of my brother. I stayed for 5 hours & went back the next day.
 
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My journey of Love & Peace is just beginning & my life will never be the same.
I have a brother who is 56, his name is Johnny & he has Huntington's Disease.
I am my brother's keeper...
Friday night, before I left the hospital, I asked the nurses if they might change Johnny into the new Christmas pajamas I had brought for him. I left the room & went over to the nurses station, leaning against the counter as I waited. A woman in a wheelchair, who I had never seen before, came over to me & said, "You're so beautiful! You have the glow of angels surrounding you." I thanked her as she continued talking to me about the Lord's blessings.
Was I in the presence of angels?
I believe I was.
Is this a Christmas Miracle?
Oh yes sweet hearts, most assuredly, this is an amazing Christmas Miracle...
for both of us!!

XOXO
vintagesusie

40 comments:

Charlene said...

Susie, What a touching story. I hope this brings you peace & happiness. I miss you so much my sweet kind friend. HUGS! Charlene

My Blessed Serendipity Life said...

What a beautiful story. We get many blessings handed to us everyday. It is our choice to accept them. What blessings you received.

-Danielle

Debby said...

Wow, what a story. So glad you found your brother.
Although this is a sad story it is a sweet story. I love that the lady could see the glow of angels around you......that is amazing. Enjoy your brother and don't beat yourself up about something you didn't have control over. God blaess you and Merry Christmas.

Debby said...

Oops....God BLESS

Lynn Stevens said...

What a touching story, I'm writing this with tears rolling down my cheek! I'm so glad you found your Johnny and sad that you have had to go through such difficult times.
Bless you and may you find Joy and peace this season.
hugs Lynn

katie said...

I am so happy you were strong enough to find your brother. May you have many day together.
Kleenex please.
Continue to live happily in the Grace that has been extended to you.
Merry Christmas.

diane cook said...

Dear Susie....I know God has a plan for you my sweet friend. I have know it from the very beginning, but I had no idea it involved your brother....I am so very happy for you, and pray you have all the strength you need for each and every day you help Johnny. He is indeed blessed to have you.

Jenny S said...

Oh sweetie! I wish you all the best. You can do anything! I know your mom is pround of you!

Dianne said...

What a beautiful and inspiring story... I'm so glad you and your brother are again a part of each others' lives... Indeed a Christmas blessing...

Linda @ A La Carte said...

Fear can paralyze us and keep us from the family we should have. I am so glad that with God's grace you were able to overcome your fear, forgive yourself and find your brother. Your life will be the richer for it. You will have the best Christmas ever!

Linda said...

Oh Susie...this just touched my heart. I am so glad you were able to reconnect with your brother...it is so hard, but oh so worth it. God bless you both! XO

Susan Jacques Marchand said...

Oh my Sweet Susie.... I know that it must have been so hard for you to put aside your fears and the bitterness that you must have felt for not being able to celebrate this wonderous Season at home with your loved one. Today you turned to the one that you miss and love so much and gave him the Very Best Christmas gift that you could have ever given him. You gave him his little sister back. Stand proud for having the courage to be there for Johnny and have no regrets for things not said in the past. He knows that he is loved. You have a heart of Gold and I love you very much.
God Be with you and Johnny Today and Always.
Big Hugs

Sandy said...

Your story has touched my heart... as I read your story, I couldn't wait to hear how it turned out. With all the love in your heart...this story will be on going...it's remarkable and you are a very loving strong and giving sister. Merry Christmas to you and love to your brother. Please come and visit me and see my story with my brother. Love is in the air.... My best to you both. xoso Sandy

Sheila Rumney said...

Your story touched my heart. May God bless you and your brother.

Suz said...

Susie,
I do think the angels were surrounding you...and I am so grateful that you were able to do the truths. You are very brave,

I had a student (and her mother) with Huntington's Disease and it was hard to watch her go down the tube behaviorally because she believed she didn't have a future anyway so she might as well play. It is a hard disease.

Your mom was a lovely woman. I hope some day they will find a cure, dear Susie!

Love,
Suz

Anji Johnston said...

This post pulled at my heart strings. What a caring and loving sister you are, and what a wonderful gift you have both been given- finding each other at last. I wish you nothing but the best of time for you and your new found relationship with your brother. And yes - your life will never be the same again- it will now be an endless journey of happiness.
Take care my friend and have a joyous Christmas

Alice said...

I've got tears rolling down my cheeks over this touching story. Sweetie, it took a lot of strength to do what you did--and now the past does not matter any more. You are Johnny's angel, and that's what matters now.

Take care my friend.

Tammy at Tattered and Timeless said...

What a huge step you took for your well being. I am sure your brother was so happy to see you. I can't imagine any of it as it is a hard situation you were in. May this just be the beginning of a new relationship you and your brother have- one based on just love as it was before.
tammy

The Divine Mrs M said...

Susie ~ I am so proud of you and so very happy for your Christmas miracle! It took so much courage and love to find your brother and I am sure you were surrounded by the love & support of angels (to include your mom)! This is an amazing time for both you & your brother!

Jane said...

Oh, girl, you went and made me cry....touched my heart so deeply to read about your Miracle! No doubt about it....a real Christmas Miracle. What a blessing you have received....this time with your brother and not having to look back and say "I wish I had."

Praying for Christmas Blessings for you and yours, most especially your big brother!

Sue said...

I believe you were, indeed, part of a Christmas miracle and that angels were watching out for you and your brother. I'm happy that you found him and that you can be a part of each other's lives once again. Sending you Christmas hugs and good wishes, Susie. ~ Sue

trash talk said...

Susie,
I've spent several days after reading this straight-to-the-heart post trying to find the words to send to you. Scrolling down thru the comments and seeing that 1958 photo of y'all grabbed me and held me. You are the bravest person I know. Not only for seeking out your brother, but for the honesty in which you talk about it.
One of daughter's best friend has Huntington's and like you, he had to wait until he was 20 to know how the dice would fall. His father and uncle both had this crippling disorder...Chris knew what lay ahead. He checked himself into a rehab at 21 and fights the depression, anger and bitterness daily.
My prayers are with you and your brother, hoping he knows how much you do love him.
God bless you and keep you. I am also praying you find peace within yourself for taking this huge step and letting go of the guilt and fear. You are my hero.
Debbie

Lynn Richards said...

Susie,
I am speechless.
A beautiful, moving post. Thank you for sharing your heart.
xo
lynn

Judy said...

You my dear Susie are an amazing person. You are a sweet, sensitive, caring, loving person. You did what any sweet, sensitive, caring loving person would do. I admire you and your heart. I believe there are angels surrounding us in a walk of life. This was a very moving part of your life you shared with us. thank you jc

Susan deGeneres said...

Susie,

There are a lot of fun, frivolous posts in blogland, but rarely do we find one that inspires us look deep and find strength, compassion and gratitude within ourselves. So I'm amazed that you do it on such a regular basis with such simple, straight forward truth.

My brother was killed in a car accident many years ago. His death and the circumstances leading up to it left us torn with feelings of guilt and anger, as well as crushing grief. But not long after his funeral, I had a dream in which he came to me as a young child with a simple message scrawled on a scrap of paper..."I'm alright and I love you."

So yes, I believe in Christmas miracles, and enduring love, and strength of character, and forgiveness.

May you find peace and joy, now that you've found your brother.

Love to you,
Susan

Judy said...

I read your beautiful blog again... It is a miracle and you must have made your brother very happy..you know Susie, you are his miracle. Did you think about that!!! Your meeting must have meant the world to him..

julie miller said...

My dear Susie, I don't think a post has ever touched me this deeply as I come from a big, healthy family and can't imagine a tragic disease such as this tearing us apart! You are so honest and brave. May God be with you and your brother and may you have the best Christmas EVER!!! With much love and affection, Julie

Feathers and Flight said...

Thank You for Sharing your Beautiful Story Susie. You are an Angel here on Earth Reminding us what is Most Precious in Life. Family.
God Bless you and Your Brother.
Thank You..Your Story Touched my Heart.
Many Blessing
Jill

Ruby Grace's said...

How brave you are for sharing this story with all of us. I believe this is a Christmas miracle and am so happy in some small way to read and it and benefit from it. Merry Christmas and a Blessed New Year.
Denis

Riki Schumacher said...

Oh Susie, what a wonderful post. I had to wipe my eyes when done, and walk away for a minute. This touches me so deeply. I lost my mom, when she was only 36, and I was ll. I sure know the pain and fear involved. I too feared having the same problems and dieing at a young age. But I didn't. You are an amazing person to face your fears, find your brother, follow through and be there. I believe "now" is as important as the past. This is a Christmas miracle, you are the angel for your brother. He is blessed, and you gave yourself the best Christmas ever.

I look forward to working with you in the New Year. Have a very Merry Christmas Susie. Hugs, Riki

The Divine Mrs M said...

Hoping you aren't impacted by all of the heavy rains and flooding! Merry Christmas!! And thanx for the message on my blog! You are tooo sweet!!!

Carol Anne's Boutique said...

Dearest Susie,
My eyes filled with tears as I read your heartfelt and touching post. What a miracle it is that you found your brother after all these years, truly a very precious gift from God. I couldn’t be happier for you my friend. You both must be filled with such joy at being reunited again…the special bond of love that the two of you share can never be broken.
Many blessings to you and your dear brother this Christmas, in the New Year and Always.
With Love & Hugs,
Carol Anne

The French Mouse said...

I don't even have the words Susie...what a journey! I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother, but so happy that you were able to reconnect with your brother. It takes a lot of courage to take a step like that. I hope you and your family have a wonderful joy filled Christmas together!

Lots of love!
Hope Ava

Anna Margaret said...

Ohh my dear!
Reading your most beautiful and precious post about your Brother blesses my heart so very much! It has to be one of the greatest post i`ve ever read. Thank you so much for sharing it.
I pray for blessing upon blessing for you and your brother my dear Blogger sister ;)
Love,
Anna Margaret ~

Linda in New Mexico said...

Susie:
How could you have known that #3 was going to make such a huge difference in yours and your brothers life. What a blessing for you. It took a lot of courage to do what you did. I took being filled with a lot of love to accomplish those things that you didn't think you could. Yes, a wonderful Christmas miracle. And now you have blessed me by the sharing of it. Thank you for a beautiful post and a wonderful way of thinking.
The Olde Bagg, Linda

Pretty Things said...

I just read this and I have chills and tears. You are such a special, special person, a wonderful story-teller, and who knows how many people's lives you've touched, how many people you've sparked to DO something about their own Number 3? I believe you've touched many, many more than you could possibly know.

Alicia said...

Dear Susie,
Congratulations on finding your brother...I cried my way through your beautiful, beautiful story. God be with you, you truly are an angel. Merry Christmas xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Alicia xx

Cindy said...

Susie
It is always so uplifting to visit your blog - in so many ways. As it has been said by many here, your story truly is a Christmas miracle and I thank you for sharing it with us. What a tribute recollecting your parent's youth all the way to your life in the present, both in words and pictures. You have a gift. I am so happy for you that you have found your brother and that the two of you can start anew starting now.

peggy aplSEEDS said...

such a beautiful post! this made me teary eyed. thanks so much for sharing. may the New Year bring all the best for you!

Shabby Vintage Junk said...

SWEET Suzie I am SO SORRY I missed this post....My heart ACHED for you, throat constricting while tears ran down my cheeks as I read your words....How very SAD, very BRAVE & VERY WONDERFUL for you....I know it must be a relief to have conquered this 'demon' & I'm sure the 'rattling' in the closet has subsided....I WISH I were as BRAVE as you my Friend....!!

I'm sending you WARM HUGS along with belated Christmas Wishes & HOPES for the New Year that you will be able to spend more time CLOSE to your brother whom you share so MANY fond memories....!

Cheers,
Tamarah xxx